After reading My Darkest Moment, you might be thinking…okay Dylan what happened next?
Welcome to my journey.
To be honest, the beginning of my journey was not as productive as I thought it would be. For about a year after the initial breakdown, I would continue my poor habits such as:
- Excessive intake of alcoholic beverages AKA beers with the boys
- Excessive caffeine intake (It’s what all COPS do right?)
- Poor nutritional habits – “dirty bulking”
- Poor exercise practices – Glamour muscles only ex. chest and tris.
- Inconsistent sleep schedule
If you haven’t guessed yet, I pretty much accelerated my alter ego of being a total bro. I thought if more girls liked me than I would be loved, therefore I would learn to love myself.
This didn’t exactly work…
So, about a year into this I continued to have these destructive thoughts, and they only seemed to get louder. In desperation for change, I did exactly what I should have done in the first place, I ASKED FOR HELP.
Thankfully being a cop does come with its perks. One call to someone I trusted (didn’t think I could let anyone else know because it would make me less of a man/ cop), and I was referred to a therapist otherwise known as “talk therapy”.
My first therapy visit was terrible. She was late, advised me this was her third job, and took my kindness as an excuse to mainly talk about herself. BUT she did say one thing that changed my perspective…
Your brain is full of neural pathways created by past experiences, and can be replaced by changing your habits and your beliefs from negative to positive.
Although a majority of the visit was trash, I took this and RAN with it, and it surely paid its dividends in the end.
I went all in on turning my life around by:
- Creating daily affirmations
- Practicing gratitude
- Reading self-help books
- Cleaning up my diet to more whole foods
- Focused on a more structured workout routine.
- Learned breathing techniques
These habits accelerated my positive progression both mentally and physically, but something was still missing.
The biggest lesson I learned, which I am still working on now, is the importance of aligning yourself with your purpose. Hence my reason for starting this blog.
This blog post will continue to grow as my journey moves along.
The “path” never ends, it continues to get harder as you progress in life, but with hard work comes big rewards.
Not all therapists are created equal, don’t let one spoil the batch.
There is nothing unmasculine or weak about asking for help. I guarantee you someone a stone throw away is experiencing issues similar to yours. (I’ve tested this.)
Perspective is everything. I have said this before, but cannot stress it enough.
When I am most aligned with my purpose, backed by my healthy habits, I am at my peak.
- I am happy.
- I am disciplined.
- I am driven.
- I am limitless.
- I am free of my negative thoughts.
- I am empathetic.
- I am full of gratitude.
Don’t worry, if you do not know your purpose yet, start with the healthy habits.
We are all bio-individual. Which means our needs are individually unique, but there are a few key basics I will share that will get you on the right path.
*If you made it this far, you’re awesome and appreciated.
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